So your partner annoys you, that’s OK!

(Pictures by Melissa Pushelberg) All any of us wants is the perfect relationship. We want to be happy, laugh and love like we’ve never loved before. Here’s the thing though, life isn’t perfect and neither is your relationship as I’ve previously touched on in another blog (Instagram love vs real life love). When you thinkRead more

What legacy will you leave behind?

  Recently I’ve been frustrated. Frustrated with myself, frustrated with peoples actions around me and generally, just frustrated with life. I’m a very driven person and I’ve always wanted to make a change. It doesn’t matter how big or small. If I can help even one person in my life, whether that’s to make themRead more

I may be British, but that doesn't make me any less Zambian

I know it’s been a while since I last posted but I was having an existential crisis. Between life catching up with me, having to finish my masters and starting my graduate job, I got to a point where I needed to remove myself from everything… I’ve talked before about how much I’ve loved growingRead more

Introducing a non-black boyfriend to your African parentsĀ 

“Dad, I want you to meet my boyfriend. Oh and by the way, he’s white…” So apparently this is a thing. People live in societies where they have to point out the race of their spouse when introducing them to their parents or won’t even introduce their spouses due to colour and I find thatRead more

Falling in love the second time round

They say your first love is the deepest, the one you never really get over, the one that always has a hold on you. I always thought this was meant in a positive and endearing way but I’ve come to learn that the statement has a completely different meaning so here’s what I’ve learned theRead more